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Lately it seems that everytime I share something sweet Will has done people respond with "Enjoy it while it lasts" or "It's only the first year that's like that". Before we got married people would caution, "Enjoy the romance now because it will all be gone after the wedding day". The thought seriously scared me. I wouldn't call Will romantic during our courtship. In fact I jokingly say now that he used to be "romantic as mud" and now I don't know what's happened to him. Thankfully our romance is not dead nor do I think romance should fade from marriages. Definitely not marriages based on the word of God. How is it possible when you are truly trying to serve each other and treat each other well? It's hard for me not to be romantic when my husband wants to help me with dishes after dinner because he knows I despise the chore.
Looking back, I realize Will was not as un-romantic as I deemed him. He just did not know how to romance me and I did not have a clue how to romance him. He was just kind enough not to complain. Unfortunately even "Romance for Dummies" cannot teach me what romance means to Will or vice versa. I have learnt that it's more romantic to Will if I say, "You could go unwind on the carjunkie web boards tonight instead of doing dishes with me" and he'd be more inclined to repay me with a footrub - my idea of romance!
Today, I like to think that we're still sowing the seeds of romance. I hope our romance will grow and thrive. A true Biblical romance elevates the husband's love for his wife to the point of loving her "as his own body". The wife treats him with the regard he deserves as head of the household and respects him. They are consumed with the kind of love for each other that gives them strength for each new day. Romance is not reduced to something passive but expressed in actions that are a result of the love we have for each other. God pours His love into our hearts and we can pour it into the life of our spouse. And how do I know that we will not run out of romance? Simple. God cannot run out of love.
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Proverbs 31 wife eh? I think so many women get offended by the idea of serving/submitting to our hubby's. But that's another day. :)
After we had kids people would say, "How's life with kids?" And they would ask awaiting the response of, "It's so hard, it's awful (complain, complain, complain)," I'd tell them, "Honestly, we can't remember life before kids.. we must've been bored or fished a whole lot." (meaning life is better)
I think that applies to marriage. Seems most people expect marriage to be so 'ball and chain'.
What is your love languages? Have you read that book?
Love that book!! If any married couple could only read one "premarital counselling book", that's the one I'd suggest! Mine is physical touch and quality time. Will's is mainly words of affirmation and other things are pretty close together.
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